Dying to Transform: Dealing With Change

Death can be a tough subject. But it doesn’t always have to be

Mike Goldberg
5 min readAug 16, 2021
Saying goodbye to my mom. (Photo by author)

Death is a difficult topic. Why are we so afraid of it?

For a lot of us, it’s the concept of change. When we lose someone, our life changes. And it’s going to be hard to imagine living without that person. The same goes for a lot of changes in life. We have to venture into unknown territory and leave what we knew behind.

Death as a transformative process.

Someone once said to me “The boy must die so the man may live.” That made me think about a concept I heard this morning — “dying INTO”.

In order to evolve, we have to give up parts of our previous life. This used to scare me. I remember when some of my friends were getting married, they went through a drastic change, seemingly overnight. And the way they went about it really disturbed me, because the first thing they did was get rid of me.

Seeing this happen, it seemed like quite a cost to give up your entire life, everything you love, and your entire identity. Why does one have to do that? Where is it written? Why do people believe this?

A few years later I met my wife, we got married, and all those things I was worried about happening — didn’t…

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Mike Goldberg

3x Top Writer | Traveler | Real estate investor | Storyteller | Occasional columnist | I talk about personal growth and seizing opportunities.