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Love is Blind? No.
Ignoring the truth only hurts us
“Love is blind.”
That’s a phrase I had difficulty understanding from the time I first heard it decades ago. To me, it sounded like rationalization for using really poor judgment in choosing a partner.
“Why did you date that loser, anyhow? He was such bad news. How did you not see that coming?”
“Well, you know what they say — love is blind.”
That’s not love, that’s laziness. That’s weakness. To purposely ignore red flags because we want to believe a person is something other than they really are is just going to end in sad disillusionment.
Why do we do this? Is it because it’s easier to hope and believe? Or is it because we’ve invested so much of ourselves already that to face the ugly truth would feel like giving up?
There’s a duality to the phrase, though.
The other half suggests that we should turn a blind eye to a person’s imperfections. It’s hard to disagree with this, lest we find ourselves constantly miserable in a relationship. Plus, people who constantly nit-pick are a real drag to be around.
But to completely turn off our thinking side is not romantic — it’s stupid. In my experience, watching people who approach relationships in this manner, play…
